Here We Go Again
I always love the stories about the cute older couples that met when they were young and are now in their 80's or 90's. I envy their years together and the experiences that time has brought them. The interviews are adorable and, more than anything, I think I am jealous that they never had to start over, erase the white board, clear the clutter, or rebuild what has been torn down. I would be foolish to think that they didn't experience tough times. It can't all be amazing or we would take it for granted. I do love that they had someone to experience it all with though. I can only imagine what that would be like.
I used to go to the nursing home and volunteer to read to the men and women there. I would go from room to room and visit with them if they wanted company. Some of them did not, but, the ones that did, would talk to me about their lives. I would ask them questions and we would laugh or I would read to them. I admired their wisdom and experience. They had lived an entire life and most of them were willing to share the lessons they had learned. They would talk about their loves and experiences. I was so humbled to listen as they opened up and shared their most important words with me.
In comparison, I look at the many times I have started over, yelled "REDO!"and hit the ground running. I have gotten pretty good at it actually. My motto has become, "Here we go again."
When it comes to romance, I am fairly certain the last 20 years have been multiple episodes of the acclaimed series , "Another One Bites The Dust." I have compared and contrasted the idea vs. the reality of true love many times. I still believe in love. I haven't lost hope that I will someday find that man to grow old with laughing and talking and loving all the way. The difference now is that I won't settle for less. My mom and I had a great conversation about where I am in my life and the fact that I am completely single. I haven't found the love of my life yet. There is no one I am dating, interested in, or in love with for the first time in more than 2 years. We talked about the woman that I have become and what I am doing to build something great for myself. The fact that I haven't found Mr. Right paled in comparison. We talked about how I get to do it all differently and with an understanding and knowledge I've never had before. Suddenly starting over isn't such a bad thing.
Maybe you are with the love of your life right now. Maybe your fresh start is chasing a dream, or finding a new career for yourself. It is never too late to realize your goals. Every day we have is a new day to make a fresh start. I am not the first person to say this and I am sure that I will not be the last. We can't dwell on the perception that the past has been a failure just because we have to pick ourselves up and start over. Beginning again is a beautiful opportunity. It is where you can breathe and take a step in a new direction. The experiences we have elevate us for greater success every time we struggle. Anyone who has ever waited until Monday to start a diet, knows exactly what I am saying here.
We cannot limit ourselves with the residue of past situations or other barriers that have kept us from our goals. At 41, I decided to shift gears and explore life coaching. This was uncharted territory for me but, I knew that I wanted to help people live the best life possible and I had just enough love and hope to make it happen. At 74, my mom has decided to write cookbooks and publish them. It is never too late to do what makes you happy. Most importantly, it is never too late to yell, "Redo!"
Right now, today, this is your time. Start over! Determine what it is you want out of life and take the first step in that direction. Tough times may follow, but, so will a happiness you have only imagined.
As for my love life, well, we will see how that evolves. I'm not worried too much about it. I know the right man will come along at the right time. And until then, I have a whole lot of living to do.
I used to go to the nursing home and volunteer to read to the men and women there. I would go from room to room and visit with them if they wanted company. Some of them did not, but, the ones that did, would talk to me about their lives. I would ask them questions and we would laugh or I would read to them. I admired their wisdom and experience. They had lived an entire life and most of them were willing to share the lessons they had learned. They would talk about their loves and experiences. I was so humbled to listen as they opened up and shared their most important words with me.
In comparison, I look at the many times I have started over, yelled "REDO!"and hit the ground running. I have gotten pretty good at it actually. My motto has become, "Here we go again."
When it comes to romance, I am fairly certain the last 20 years have been multiple episodes of the acclaimed series , "Another One Bites The Dust." I have compared and contrasted the idea vs. the reality of true love many times. I still believe in love. I haven't lost hope that I will someday find that man to grow old with laughing and talking and loving all the way. The difference now is that I won't settle for less. My mom and I had a great conversation about where I am in my life and the fact that I am completely single. I haven't found the love of my life yet. There is no one I am dating, interested in, or in love with for the first time in more than 2 years. We talked about the woman that I have become and what I am doing to build something great for myself. The fact that I haven't found Mr. Right paled in comparison. We talked about how I get to do it all differently and with an understanding and knowledge I've never had before. Suddenly starting over isn't such a bad thing.
Maybe you are with the love of your life right now. Maybe your fresh start is chasing a dream, or finding a new career for yourself. It is never too late to realize your goals. Every day we have is a new day to make a fresh start. I am not the first person to say this and I am sure that I will not be the last. We can't dwell on the perception that the past has been a failure just because we have to pick ourselves up and start over. Beginning again is a beautiful opportunity. It is where you can breathe and take a step in a new direction. The experiences we have elevate us for greater success every time we struggle. Anyone who has ever waited until Monday to start a diet, knows exactly what I am saying here.
We cannot limit ourselves with the residue of past situations or other barriers that have kept us from our goals. At 41, I decided to shift gears and explore life coaching. This was uncharted territory for me but, I knew that I wanted to help people live the best life possible and I had just enough love and hope to make it happen. At 74, my mom has decided to write cookbooks and publish them. It is never too late to do what makes you happy. Most importantly, it is never too late to yell, "Redo!"
Right now, today, this is your time. Start over! Determine what it is you want out of life and take the first step in that direction. Tough times may follow, but, so will a happiness you have only imagined.
As for my love life, well, we will see how that evolves. I'm not worried too much about it. I know the right man will come along at the right time. And until then, I have a whole lot of living to do.
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